All Things Intriguing

As I sit down to write this, I realize it was about this time of night six years ago—late in the evening of New Year’s Day, 2006—when I tiptoed out onto the internet and decided to start a food blog.

I was sick that New Year’s, I had been for weeks. We celebrated the holidays at home. My friends who had also been sick came over and we drank butternut squash soup with roasted garlic from large rounded mugs my friend Violeta gave me, and ate walnut bread spread with blue cheese and slices of pear as we sat in front of the fire and wondered what the new year might bring us.

The next day I spent in bed, as I was spending most of my days. As the day drew to a close I propped my laptop up on my knees, in my cream-colored San Francisco bedroom with the bay window and the view of the cypress trees in Golden Gate Park, and started typing. In a few years the Academy of Sciences would be rebuilt and the domes that Renzo Piano designed would glow in the night and I would be able to see it from my perch in bed, looking otherworldly and ghostly in the foggy dark. But all that lay in the future.

I could never have known then as I sat there, legs drawn up beneath my down quilt, that the thing I was doing would change my life. I was simply picking out keys to write about something I love and wanted to share—Japanese nabe stews that are served in the winter. Key by key, I wrote that story, and the next day I wrote another one.

Story by story this site grew, and it brought new people into my life, new work opportunities, new adventures. Story by story, it changed my life. I now live in another city, my work has changed, my world has broadened in ways I never could have imagined. I’ve made friends I never would have otherwise, I’ve fallen in love with photography, I’ve learned to make cheese. Best of all, I have you lovely people reading along, sharing your stories, sending me notes to tell me when something in particular has touched you. It’s all been so much more than I ever could have dreamed.

But imagine if I hadn’t taken that first step. What if I had decided to watch TV instead? What would my life have looked like today if I had just gone to sleep?

There’s a takeaway from this story (and it’s not that everyone should start a blog). When I started writing about nabe, I was writing about something I love. I was following my passion and curiosity. I had no idea where it might lead, I had no expectations or ambitions for it. Back then no one had gotten a book deal from their website, no one had advertisements or cared about search engine optimization. I wasn’t writing as a launching pad to anywhere. This site was not a resume builder. For the first three years I wrote it anonymously, not even listing my name.

I began because it excited me. I was curious and I wanted to write about something I loved. I was following my passion, with no thought to where it might lead. The destination was never the point, the act of doing was reward enough. Everything else has been a delightful surprise.

I spent New Year’s on the Oregon coast this year, a place of woodsy hills, long flat beaches, and a charming quirky hotel I will tell you about soon. I met a lovely woman there who emailed me afterwards and told me she and her husband had resolved this year to “follow-through on all things intriguing.”

Follow-through on all things intriguing. I’ve been thinking of that idea ever since. I love it.

That’s what I did the day I started this site: I walked in the direction of something that intrigued me, an idea that brought me delight. I didn’t yet understand why, but there was a flutter in my heart and I followed it—even though, as a professional writer, I had plenty of people telling me I shouldn’t write for free. Food blogging intrigued me and I followed through. Everything has come from that.

I’m really excited about 2012. I have some ideas that make my heart flutter—ideas for my own life, and also for the life of this site. You all inspire me so much, and I have fun plans for things we might do together. I’ll be telling you more about that in the weeks to come. It’s going to be great.

But here is my question for you, and the first day of the year feels like the perfect time to ask it:

What intriguing thing do you want to follow-though on this year?

Do you want to travel, or write a book, or take singing lessons, or pull out that painting set in your garage? (I do). Maybe you want to run a 10K, or learn how to ride a bike, or stand on your head in yoga class. Maybe you just want to organize your spice rack (if that is the case, I highly recommend it).

On this brand new slate of a year, what is the story you want to write for yourself? What is fluttering in your heart?

If you feel comfortable sharing in the comments, I’d love to hear. Your answer doesn’t have to be practical or even make sense—often these things don’t make sense until later. I always think you know what is right and true because it both excites you and scares you a little bit too. It’s the thing that makes you flutter on the inside.

Let’s all hold hands and take a big step forward together, closer to what is calling us.

Happy New Year, friends. I have a feeling it’s going to be a great one.

The Gifts We Give

I spent the morning surrounded by  ribbons and wrapping paper and excited niecelets (who were bouncing on my bed at 5:15 AM), in a mess of holiday gifting. The other night it was Chanukah candles, presents, and latkes. It’s that time of year.

I asked you last week about the best gift you’d ever given or received, and again you blew my mind and cracked my heart open. You guys are amazing.

In this season of buying and giving, I wanted to share your incredible stories. I hope you don’t mind. They were too good to keep to myself, and the best reminder of what truly matters to us.

Today I am feeling grateful for one of my best presents: YOU. Thanks for being here, for sharing your stories, for reading along.

Happy Holidays,

—Tara

Winner of An Everlasting Meal is Anna N. Congratulations. Please send me your address!

One of the best gifts I ever got: a donation in my name to Doctors without Borders!
—Beyond

The best gift this year has been my mom’s health. This time last year was round after round of doctor visits trying to balance medications, get a clear diagnosis… amidst mom’s increasing fatigue. So I’m thrilled that she’s so much healthier this year.
—Nikki

One of the best gifts I have received was an envelope from my cousin with some pictures of my mom I had never seen after she suddenly passed away.
—Flor de Maria

A couple of years ago for Mother’s Day, my husband surprised me with some of my grandmother’s recipes. That took persistence and a bit of detective work on his part. It also meant that he had listened to my stories of her cooking and my wish that her recipes were available to me.
—Laura

One of the best gifts I ever received was a personally written poem on a piece of tree bark written by a friend who had gone away to his cottage for a weekend. He used the piece of bark he had cut from doing some outdoor work. The poem had come with a cassette single of a song we had listened to in the car after an outing a week previously. I had mentioned at that time that it was one of my favourite songs, so my friend thoughtfully remembered and bought me the single. This was years ago, but still a present given with a lot of love and one I think of fondly.
—Zara

Without a doubt my most wonderful gift has been that of parenthood. No material item compares with having the opportunity to raise a child, and the blessing of a husband with whom to share these joys.
—Cathy

Health is the best gift I’ve ever received.
—Lee

All of my friends have multiple kiddos. Each Christmas, one of the kiddos gets the gift of a day with me, doing whatever fun activities they choose (within reason). I love getting to spend that time with them and I know they like having one on one time without their pesky siblings.  It’s great being the fun Auntie!
—Elena

My most wonderful gift is the one I’m getting this year. I am going back to the country I was adopted from. I’ve never been back and my daughter is teaching English there. I hope to visit the orphanage and see the country.
—Carolyn

The best gift I ever got was a plain silver ring on my thirteenth birthday, from a friend who used to babysit for me when I was a kid. She told me that she often wore rings to remind herself of things that were important to her, and this one was to remind me to be true to myself. I wasn’t much for jewelry at the time, but I started wearing it every day and I still do.
—Anna

Best gift I ever received was my wedding ring when my husband proposed by asking my father (at his gravesite) for my hand in marriage. And second best—my ten-year anniversary ring from my husband with ten sparkling sapphires. But really the best gift is just the gift of love.
—Jamie

The best gift . . .my husband bought me new, safer tires for Valentine’s Day.
—Rachel

Hands down, the best gift I ever got for Christmas was my dog, Cora. She is a rescued mutt, but the sweetest, prettiest, funniest mutt in all Muttdom.
—Zoomie

Favorite gift received: my late grandma’s Kitchenaid mixer. Cause, mixers are awesome, of course. But also because I never cease to be amazed at the sheer volume of cookies that grandma could coax out of that thing!
—Cynthia

The best present I ever received was a mysterious box which I opened at a family dinner. Inside was a frosted bottle which looked as if it had been rolled in the ocean for a long time, along with a pair of lobster crackers and a note tucked into the neck of the bottle. When I read it, I was astonished to find that my family had rented a wonderful old farmhouse near Falmouth, Maine, and were taking me there to celebrate my 60th birthday – all the way from SoCal. The best thing was that there was no time to think about it, as the trip was in a couple of days and all had been prepared behind the scenes for me. A memorable family time was had with plenty of lobster, fresh Nova Scotia salmon, lighthouse visiting and a trip to Mt Desert Island. It was the best birthday present ever!
—Lynnette

Your description of a good gift (something that delights the giver and that they want to give to another) reminded me of my best friend in college wanting to read his favorite book with me. It’s not really a ‘normal’ gift, but he knew I would love it so we read it out loud together and it was fantastic. Those reading sessions are some cherished memories—perhaps that’s the best part of the gift.
—Katie

Every year my husband gets me an ornament for our tree, and he always writes the year on it somewhere. He gave me this year’s the other night (a soft fabric elephant), and in addition to the year, he added “I [heart] u”. Then he decided he didn’t want that to ever wear off, so he spent several hours carefully embroidering it while watching football. It’s the sweetest thing anyone has ever given me.
—Rachel

For a year, I got to spend a day with my baby niece every week. I think it was the most wonderful mutual gift ever! Today my little nephew is coming over to spend the day with me and that puts me in the Holiday spirit more than any trip to the mall.
—Nik

When I returned to college at age 35, I lived in the dorms and went home to my lovely not-yet-husband on the weekends. It was a women’s college and in my wing all the “resumers” (over 25—but most of us late 30s and older) were housed. During finals—or some stressful time—a friend left a pinecone just outside my door. The note underneath read simply, “Love, Sylvie”. When I saw her at dinner and thanked her she said, “I knew you haven’t had time to take your walks these days and I thought it was something you might like.”

I had never mentioned my walks to anyone because I liked to take them alone on the beautiful woodsy campus and I had no idea anyone knew I did this almost daily. I still have that pinecone.
—Em

When we lived in Edinburgh, my family became close friends with a couple that worked in the cafe downstairs from our flat (yes, we were spoiled!). The woman, Sola, did most of the baking for the cafe and makes the most amazing cakes and goodies! I was always too shy to ask for the recipes, though. We love them both dearly and were crushed to move away from them when we headed to California.

The following Christmas, with no fanfare, a little brown package came in the mail– it was a handwritten cookbook of all Sola’s sweets recipes! I still get tears in my eyes thinking about how touched I was, stressed and homesick for Scotland, pulling that wee book out.
—Jenevieve

My best gift ever would have to be my boys.
—Barbara

I LOVED buying myself a house the day before Thanksgiving…then remodeling it during December. Through the years, the dining room filled with people, great food and great dinner parties. The claw-foot tub soaked away many a sore muscle and sore mind. The kitchen hosted lots of new recipes and canning projects. The garden grew fruit trees and chickens and veggies and herbs. The patio cultivated many cocktails. The fishpond turned ten-cent goldfish into “giant” koi. The porch swing saw roses grow and people walking dogs and neighbors stopping by. The guest rooms hosted visitors from Russia and Holland and many, many states. The park down the street hosted many walks with my German Shepherds. The driveway parked my first truck (BART…Big A– Red Truck), and my first “new” car. And the walls and windows held my goodbyes when I moved from the city to the mountains. Thank you to my first house. And thanks to the new homes in my life.
—Rose

I had to think for a while, because I have been a very fortunate woman — not rich in material goods, but rich in all the ways that count, and I have received many wonderful gifts. But I think one that really stands out was the Christmas I had nothing to give my children. I had fallen on Dec. 23 and injured my knee so badly I could not walk in a store — and I had not yet bought the Christmas gifts for my 3 girls, who were then 7, 9 and 11. They had been spending the week with their Dad, but they came back to my place on Christmas Day. They glanced at the empty stockings and no presents from me under the tree, then rushed to give me the presents they had gotten me: a pair of socks, some stationery, and a video of “My Fair Lady.” All they cared about was seeing me open their presents; they were so excited! And they had come up with My Fair Lady on their own — one of them had heard me say that year that I really loved that movie, and had remembered my comment. I knew then that my girls would be okay in life. They understood already that what counted was not how many presents they had under the tree, but the joy of giving to others.
—Terry

Thanks to all of you, for your big hearts and good humor. It is such a gift to me.

The Last Minute List

It’s getting a little crazy out there, folks. Crazy, crazy. I haven’t been in any shopping malls, but even the grocery stores are feeling a little panicked. People are staring down at shopping lists with furrowed brows. Have we gotten everything? What are we forgetting? You can feel the stress in the air.

“They do realize stores will be reopening on the 26th?” I joked with a checkout clerk this week. People were shopping like the apocalypse was coming.

“I think they forget,” he deadpanned back.

In case you are one of those people who are stressing about gifts not yet bought, I wanted to put together a last minute list. These are all great ideas—cool experiences that might open up someone’s world in neat and creative ways. They’re all things I would love myself. And they’re all things you can purchase over the computer or the phone, today or tomorrow. No shopping malls involved! So here we go, for those last minute presents—for someone else, or for yourself.

Mondo Beyondo—I’ve mentioned it here before, but I’ve loved the Mondo Beyondo course run by Andrea Scher and Jennifer Lemen. It’s a six-week online class devoted to clarifying and perusing your dreams. That might sound airy-fairy, but I like to think of it as empowering and inspiring. I’ve taken the class twice and have loved the community support and  guidance and examples set by Andrea and Jen (both of whom I’ve gotten to know over the last few years). I love the idea of giving this to someone who might not be entirely satisfied in their current life path, and I think doing this in January (their next class date) is a wonderful way to start a new year. Right now, if you leave a comment on Andrea’s site, you can get $20 off the class.

Superhero Photo—If Mondo Beyondo wasn’t cool enough, this year Andrea started another online workshop, devoted to photography. It’s called Superhero Photo, and while I haven’t taken this one I really want to. Again this is a six-week online course starting in January (creativity in the new year, yay!). It’s aimed at all levels and you don’t need a fancy camera. Andrea writes: “In this course we will find ourselves in that sweet spot where creativity, play and aliveness intersect.” That sounds pretty great to me.

Slice of Life Photo Course—My friend Darrah Parker runs another online photography class that might be more your speed (and starts in February, which might be better for your schedule). Slice of Life focuses on capturing the beauty in your everyday life. It’s not about technical photo mumbo-jumbo, more about developing your eye and your confidence. There’s also a discount on the class if you register before the end of December. Darrah is a sweet and supportive soul, and would make a wonderful guide into a more regular photography practice.

Rachel Cole’s Well-Fed Woman Retreatshop—more on the life-expansion side of things, Rachel Cole, who is a colleague become friend, guide, and inspiration to me, is taking her show on the road and leading mini retreat-workshops in cities around the country. I’ll be telling you more about Rachel in the new year, because she really is a wonderful teacher and coach, but if someone in your life, or even yourself, is looking for a dose of support, guidance, and inspiration in finding what it is that feeds your soul, this would be the best experiential gift I can think of.

Teahouse Studio—Have you heard about Teahouse Studio? If you happen to live in the Bay Area, you should know about this new treasure, opened by a trio of artists as a place for dreaming, community, and creativity. They’re offering a series of classes and workshops and I want to take them all. They are also offering gift certificates. This is a wonderful resource, and some of their offerings may be worth traveling for. What a great vacation—sunny California, art, creativity, cool people. Where do I sign up for that?

Omnivore Books—I’ve told you of this gorgeous cookbook store in San Francisco that I love so much I want to install a comfy sofa and move right in. Guess what, they also offer gift certificates and—even better— a signed cookbook club. Four times a year they will send out a carefully selected signed new release cookbook to the recipient of your choice. What a fun gift that keeps on giving all year round. You can purchase it through their website.

The Book Larder—I haven’t told you about The Book Larder yet, but I will soon. It’s the brand new and utterly delightful cookbook store here in Seattle. I might truly move in here, because they have a demonstration kitchen (so all that’s missing is a bed and desk for me). The kitchen is important, because it allows them to offer cooking classes, both with visiting chefs and cookbook authors, and also with local cooking teachers. You can buy tickets to classes and events online.

The Pantry at Delancey—Another Seattle resource you’ll be hearing more about, The Pantry at Delancey is the new offshoot from Delancey the restaurant. It’s a community kitchen that offers cooking classes, special dinners, and hard-to-find ingredients and kitchen items for sale as well. If you’re looking for a gift for a food-lover in Seattle, they offer class registrations online, and you can buy gift certificates as well. It could be a very delicious new year.

That’s it folks. Here’s to exciting new adventures and opportunities in the New Year.

And if you’re looking for little stocking stuffers or Hannukah gifts for friends and family who like to cook, here is my foodie gift guide from last year: Small, Cheap, Useful. I really love presents you’ll actually end up using.

Stay sane out there, friends. As I told the UPS guy who dropped off a package this morning: “Hang in there. It’s almost over.”

Christmas Crack Corn

December of last year I was on a diet and pretty serious about it. I did a good job too. I sidestepped the Christmas cookies, I even skipped having a birthday cake. My resolve was impressive. Nothing could tempt me.

Then I made this caramel corn with chocolate.

There were a lot of caramel corn recipes floating around the internet last year, none of them particularly tempted me. Caramel corn is hardly earthshaking, even when done well. But one day I saw a bag of caramel corn with chocolate, made by a local company called Simply Sinful, and I couldn’t resist. I’m no longer allowed to walk down that aisle in the grocery store when hungry, because let me tell you people, caramel corn with bittersweet chocolate is amazing. It’s addictive, in fact, so much more than the sum of its parts.

I easily resisted every sweet treat last Christmas, except this one. By the end of the month I was calling it “crack corn.” By January I was in serious withdrawal. It is, in fact, earthshaking.

If you like unexpected treats, if you like sweet and salty and deep chocolaty and maybe even peanutty, you should definitely give this a try. Anyone you make it for will be grateful, and quite possibly addicted.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

CHRISTMAS CRACK CORN

12 cups popped corn
1 cup brown sugar
¼ cup light corn syrup
1/2 tsp salt
8 tbs (one stick) unsalted butter
½ tsp baking soda
1 tsp vanilla
I cup salted peanuts, roughly chopped (optional; I don’t love peanuts but you may)
6 oz (about 1 cup) semisweet chocolate chips (I use Ghirardelli 60%)
grapeseed, vegetable, or canola oil for greasing pans and bowls

Preheat oven to 250°

Prepare the popcorn using whatever method you prefer. If using a pot, 1 cup corn, 1/3 cup oil (grapeseed, vegetable, or canola) and ½ tsp salt should do the trick. If using microwave popcorn, buy an unbuttered, lightly salted variety. And did you know you can make your own microwave popcorn using a paper bag?

Grease a large mixing bowl with oil and measure out 12 cups of popcorn into the bowl.

In a medium pot or saucepan (make sure the sides are at least 3 inches high), add the sugar, corn syrup, butter, and ½ tsp salt. Measure out the vanilla and baking soda and have ready. Prep the peanuts (if using) before heating the sugar mixture.

You will also want to have two spoons or rubber spatulas close at hand, and a large baking sheet with sides or roasting pan. Coat all of these with a little oil.

See, doesn’t that caramel corn look naked by comparison? So sad.

Heat the sugar/butter mixture until it comes to a boil. Stir constantly for five minutes on a low boil. Take off the heat and add the baking soda and vanilla (it will get foamy). Stir to incorporate. Pour the caramel mixture over the popcorn (add the peanuts). Mix with the spoons/spatulas as best you can. Don’t try to mix with your hands—the caramel will burn.  Don’t worry if it doesn’t mix evenly. You can fix that in the oven.

Dump the corn and caramel onto the prepared baking sheet, spread out as much as possible, and place in the preheated oven. Check after 10-15 minutes and stir the mixture. The caramel will soften and you should be able to mix it more thoroughly. Bake 1 hour, stirring every 15 minutes. Allow the corn to cool completely and break up any large pieces before proceeding.

Melt the chocolate, either in a double boiler or in the microwave (50% power, in 30 second increments), until just melted. Using a spoon, drizzle the chocolate over the pan of caramel corn. You want big chocolate bits, not tiny drizzles. Do not stir. Let chill in the fridge for 15 minutes before packaging or eating.

Makes one large baking sheet of popcorn. It’s never enough.

An Everlasting Meal

Hello, hello! Sorry for my absence. I got distracted by a little birthday over here. But I am back, with our last book, and it is such a good one.

Your comments on the last post were amazing, amazing, and have given me some great ideas for things to do on the site. You guys never cease to inspire and amuse me. Thank you. I can’t wait for 2012.

And the winners of Joy for Beginners are: Lisa F, Kelly, and Houstonian Ess. Send me your addresses, please, and now for our final selection.

I had originally picked a different last book, a cookbook I will eventually tell you about, but this latecomer sidled her way to the front of the line and firmly but politely demanded my attention. And she got it.

From time to time you see a food writer, here or there, compared to MFK Fisher, the granddame of American food writing. It’s a flattering comparison, to be sure, but from here on out I am going to call it false. In my book there is only one person following in those large footsteps, and that person is Tamar Adler.

Adler’s book, An Everlasting Meal, landed on my desk recently and as soon as I cracked it open I was charmed. She writes in prose that is at once lyrical, educational, opinionated, and playful. She writes of food and the cooking of it, but also the connecting pleasure of it. This is a book about that most intimate of relationships—between our human selves and what we consume to sustain us.

It is about life and how we feed it.

An Everlasting Meal is a series of essays, inspired by MKF Fisher’s How to Cook a Wolf, with recipes woven through—both written in recipe format and also in Adler’s own poetic prose. It’s a foodie sort of book, not because it is fancy or obnoxious, but because it delights in the substance of food. Adler praises stale bread crumbs and kale stems as much as she does homemade mayonnaise. And despite a voice that is charmingly quaint, she does not stand on ceremony. She cooks and eats, plain and simple, just as you and I do.

Which brings us to one of the quotes I love in this book—though the list of loved quotes is long, I kept wanting to read whole paragraphs aloud to someone, just to share their content and cleverness.

This book…doesn’t contain “perfect” or “professional” ways to do anything, because we don’t need to be professionals to cook well, any more than we need to be doctors to treat bruises and scrapes; we don’t need to shop like chefs or cook like chefs; we need to shop and cook like people learning to cook, like what we are—people who are hungry.

And that is the heart of An Everlasting Meal: we’re human, we’re hungry, what are we going to do about it? It’s an earthy book, connected to roots and peels and how to coax a satisfying meal out of eggs and bread and the vegetables you have rattling around in the crisper. It is the opposite end of the spectrum from the recent craze for food so fussy and scientific it’s uncomfortable (at least uncomfortable to me, some people love it). This book is intelligent and rustic, as wise as ancient tradition and as fresh as new radishes sprouting in spring.

I really hope you go out and find this book. I think you’ll be delighted.

And ultimately that’s why I wanted to share this book with you. That other cookbook is wonderful, I adore it, and half of you have probably heard of it already. An Everlasting Meal is a fresh new voice, a first book, and I wanted to make sure it got your notice. Also, because I think you will love it. I know I did.

You can read some short excerpts of the book on Tamar’s website, but I really hope you track down a copy. It would be a lovely gift, but I hope it’s also a gift you give yourself. Because this book is a treat, and I don’t want you to miss out.

Thanks to Scribner, the publisher, I am able to give away one copy of the book (wish I could send you all one). Leave a comment if you’d like to be entered in the giveaway. How about you tell me the most wonderful gift you’ve ever given or received—it could be a material present or the gift of time, energy, thoughtfulness, or even simply an amazing meal.

I spent some time in commercial America today and it’s all buy-buy-buy/gift-gift-gift right now. I’m trying to remember that presents, at their heart, are more an act of faith and appreciation than anything else. Here, this is delightful, I think it will expand your world a bit, and I want you to have it.

That’s kind of how I feel about this book.

Also, I now have an entirely new perspective on boiled vegetables. Crazy!

Bragging rights: yes, those are tomatoes I grew in the photos. Kind of painful to look at them here in mid-December. But I have a few jars of them roasted and tucked away in the freezer for some day when I am hungry for summer. I suspect Tamar might approve.